this isn't a proper post just a moan...
Don't have time or headspace for anything. My beloved 8 year old is still ill and I am exhausted. She isn't getting better and the fact that it's not serious nor life threatening isn't cheering me up one jot. She has been off school for 4 weeks now.
Hate to moan about this but would oh so love someone to come and take over for a bit. This is when I really do miss my mum! And I do appreciate that other people have really serious illnesses to contend with but I hate watching my little one washed out and in pain and sad. She misses her friends and they miss her - goodness knows how far she's falling behind at school. So we have booked a cheapie week away at half term somewhere hot - my lovely GP said she'd might as well convalesce there as here. And feel guilty about that too.
Sorry, moan over.
Don't have time or headspace for anything. My beloved 8 year old is still ill and I am exhausted. She isn't getting better and the fact that it's not serious nor life threatening isn't cheering me up one jot. She has been off school for 4 weeks now.
Hate to moan about this but would oh so love someone to come and take over for a bit. This is when I really do miss my mum! And I do appreciate that other people have really serious illnesses to contend with but I hate watching my little one washed out and in pain and sad. She misses her friends and they miss her - goodness knows how far she's falling behind at school. So we have booked a cheapie week away at half term somewhere hot - my lovely GP said she'd might as well convalesce there as here. And feel guilty about that too.
Sorry, moan over.
posted by ska @ 10:20 AM
19 Comments:
At May 18, 2007 10:39 AM ,
WesterWitch/Headmistress said...
Oh Ska - I think you have every right to have a moan - berludy exhausting for you. I do hope she is on the mend and gets better soon. Can I ask what is wrong - you never know someone might come up with something that will help!
At May 18, 2007 10:43 AM ,
Inthemud said...
Oh dear, you poor thing, what ever is wrong with your daughter? Is it the same thing that took you to the hospital in your blog?
So tiring when a child is ill.
I've struggled too, my eldest had a post viral thing when she was 6 and missed so much school, wasn't well for about 4 years, then middle one got glandular fever at 13 and then ME/CFS after and is only just beginning to get better, exhausting caring for them when they are so poorly. My mum was always too far away to help , and Stans mum died as I explained in blog earlier this week.
Do you have a good friend who could come over and give you a break??
Warmest wishes
Elaine
At May 18, 2007 10:51 AM ,
UN PEU LOUFOQUE said...
Oh dear how exhausting and what a really good idea to have a break in the sun! Do not feel guilty it is very hard work being a Mum and with a sick child it is worse.
Give up housework let the place fall apart just sit on the sofa and watch dvd or kids tv and cuddle all day long with her, or read books and colour. Do not worry about her missing out at school.
Mummy time is what she needs.
At May 18, 2007 10:53 AM ,
@themill said...
So glad you can moan to us. Hope it makes you feel better. My 10 year old niece was off school for 6 weeks before Christmas and then only reintroduced odd mornings or afternoons. Post viral thing too. Good news is she is now fighting fit and back to normal
At May 18, 2007 10:57 AM ,
ChrisH said...
It is awful, isn't it, watching a sick child and wishing you could take it away from them? I do hope both she and you recover soon.
At May 18, 2007 11:03 AM ,
toady said...
Go and enjoy a guilt free break in the sun. You deserve it. Toady
At May 18, 2007 11:12 AM ,
Exmoorjane said...
Don't you remotely feel bad about moaning.....vital stuff moaning! And you've got really good reason too - all that worry and exhaustion. I'm SO glad you're getting a break away....sounds like you totally deserve it.
What do they say it is (sorry, I have missed the beginning of this)?
At May 18, 2007 11:29 AM ,
lixtroll said...
It's not moaning, Ska! It's one of the most important things to be able to talk about anything you want to here, and to know that we are all behind you. I am so sorry to hear that your daughter is not getting any better, it is so heartbreaking, a real drain on your resources - I'm not surprised you feel the need for someone to take over for a space!
And don't you dare feel guilty about taking a break in the sun!!! It sounds to me like an absolute necessity for both you and your daughter. Perhaps some warmth and sunlight will be enough to envigorate you both and give you the extra bit of strength you need. You will soon see that the schoolwork will easily be caught up with, all in the right time. Have a lovely time when you go and try to forget about everything else, other than that which is important to you - the wellbeing of your little girl!
At May 18, 2007 12:06 PM ,
Suffolkmum said...
I wish I lived nearer to come and give you a break. So sorry to hear she's still not right - no wonder you're exhausted, moan all you like. THese post viral things can be awful - I'm sure she just needs lots of rest and some sushine, but have you tried a homeopath?
At May 18, 2007 12:32 PM ,
Grouse said...
I was remote, too when the twins were small....no help from anyone. I do feel for you. Dont worry about the missed school and try to look after yourself, you sound very low....the holiday will do you all good so go and enjoy it!!!!!!!
At May 18, 2007 12:38 PM ,
annakarenin said...
Brilliant idea to go off for a bit. You both need it.
Wouldn't worry about her falling behind, they very quickly catch up again at that age she just needs to get better. It must be a pain for both of you being stuck in and missing out on company though. My lot had a run off illnesses recently and it was that part that nearly drove me demented.
At May 18, 2007 1:59 PM ,
ska said...
oh you lot are so dear! Thank you all. She has had a cold, a chest infection, a different cold, laryngitis, another cold, a UTI, tonsillitis (all since Easter) and now has mesenteric adenitis which I fear is something they say when they don't really know what is wrong (or perhaps when the mother is neurotic?). Inflammed lymph glands in the abdomen basically and it's a post viral thing. But with the capacity to fool one into believing it is appendicitis. Tummy pain (lots of writhing and tears) and tiredness. Looked it up on the internet (big mistake) and found that it can last months but my elder sister who lives in the US and who was a paediatrician before having a stroke (I think that sounds far worse than in fact it is, she is ok, some loss of cognitive capacity but has a huge insurance payout and happy enjoying an early retirment) says that it can last a short time or a long time and it will run its course. But as my little one was mainly in good health before this winter she is optimistic.
I have wondered about homeopathy and have great faith in the restorative power of the sun and relaxing away from the usual routine. Hence the holiday.
Thanks everyone, you are lovely, would that you all lived around the corner!
At May 18, 2007 2:21 PM ,
WesterWitch/Headmistress said...
Ah hah - we had that - son was often writhing in pain - even sick sometimes. Enlarged glands all over. Serious tummy aches - Docs called out on more than one occassion.It came and went and popped up now and again. He had lots of investigations - basically he was ok and grew very quickly out of it.
At May 18, 2007 2:24 PM ,
Inthemud said...
PS Evie who had the post viral thing form age of 6 missed loads of school and did 2 term 's am's only but she still managed all A's at GCSE and 4 A's at A level, so don't worry about having time off school and go away for sunny relaxed break, Evie & Soph both so much better in warmth of another country.
At May 18, 2007 2:26 PM ,
KittyB said...
Poor little thing, I really feel for you (and your little one) I agree with Suffolkmum about homeopath - it's worth a try and wouldn't be nasty or painful for her at all, I swear by them! If she's feeling up to it could school send some bits of work home for her to catch up on. Holiday somewhere sounds like a good idea. Take care of yourself too.x
At May 18, 2007 3:11 PM ,
Pondside said...
I don't think you're moaning at all. In a perfect world, this virtual circle of friends would make a rota and ensure that you had some time away - even just to the library - and a couple of prepared meals each week. I really hope you get away to the sun. Just flop into a lounge - don't plan a single excursion - and relax....you have earned every minute.
At May 18, 2007 3:13 PM ,
The Country Craft Angel said...
Poor ska-that's what we are all here for. It is not moaning, you have a lot to contend with.
I know exactly what it is like. My eldest boy was really poorly for several months few years ago. It proved very draining and we were in and out of hospital. Only mummy would do as well which was tough. We had to cancel a holiday to France as they wouldn't let us go abroad (he was too unstable). However we all went to Pembrokeshire for a 5 day break in a Caravan. We still say it was one of the best holidays we ever had-so good to be all together and him be out of danger and us away from everything-such a welcome break from looking at same 4 walls and hospitals.
Good for you for booking to go away. You must make time to be kind to yourself as well!
warm wishes
x
At May 18, 2007 4:32 PM ,
sally's chateau said...
A very good reason to go away, hope your holiday is just the tonic you all deserve it's very upsetting when your child is ill. x
At May 18, 2007 11:04 PM ,
CAMILLA said...
Oh poor you, I dont think you are moaning at all Ska, you are just worried as I would be. I think the holiday in the sun for you and your child would do you both a world of good. Forget the housework, just have time together. Maybe as Kitty said you could bring some school work home, but not if it would be too tiring with the infection. I do sympathise greatly when children get ill,you cannot help but worry, shows you what a good mum you
are. Let us know how you get on Ska.
Camilla
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