Confessions of a serial mower - an emotional morning

I have had a very emotional few days. The Heiress, our Angel and new found love of our lives has been very very poorly. A month ago she had the MMR vaccine; I was worried as many people are over this, and was told not to be so old fashioned! She started to get sick last Thursday and spiked a dreadful fever on Friday and was covered in spots by Saturday. Doctors prodded and poked and finally decided yesterday that she has baby measles - from research it would appear that rarely this can occur up to six weeks after the MMR vaccine is administered.
Today the rash is subsiding, her temperature is normal and she is perky and wants to eat. There doesnt appear to be any lasting damage. We are on a moments notice to drive to Portsmouth if need by. We have a web cam link to watch her as she is home.
We tried to carry on as normal all weekend, we even went out for that hilarious meal, thinking she just was teething, hot and grumpy. But our baby girl was really sick.
I have been looking through my favourite Daisy Goodwin poetry book, for a bit of comfort, and found this poem, by Bernard O'Donoghue. You may find this odd at a time like this, but with Blossom losing her friend and others having suffered, it just shows how important it is to tell those people you love, that you love them. I hope Blossom finds comfort from the fact that her friend knew how much she was loved. I told my dear departed mum often and I will now make sure I tell The Heiress every time I see her, in between the kisses.
Going without Saying
It is a great pity we don't know
When the dead are going to die.
So that, over a last companionable
Drink, we could tell them
How much we liked them.
Happy the man who, dying. can
Place his hand on his heart and say:
At least I didn't neglect to tell
The thrush how beautifully she sings.

17 Comments:
At May 15, 2007 12:34 PM ,
WesterWitch/Headmistress said...
Oh dear - what a tough time for you and your family. Still she won't need to have any more measles jabs now - will she? I had the measles when I was little and suffered no ill effects - but I remember it making me feel very very ill and hallucinating.
At May 15, 2007 12:43 PM ,
Milla said...
My father has always impressed on me about living your life with others, so that you don't hinge on tiny regrets around their dying (like, "oh, if ONLY I'd gone to visit Granny that Saturday" etc - he would say remember all the times you DID go and visit her). To tinge the joyous memory of someone with pointless regret takes away from what you did share together. Sermon over. Give the Heiress a kiss, yes, yes, ANOTHER kiss!
At May 15, 2007 12:45 PM ,
Exmoorjane said...
Oh mousie...it's so horrible when babies are ill - can't bear it. I don't know if homeopathy is an option but a good homeopath could give her something to mitigate the effect and help her immune system get over the shock. www.homeopathy-soh.org has a register. Just a stray thought.
At May 15, 2007 12:48 PM ,
WesterWitch/Headmistress said...
PS After seeing Mike and the Mechanics and listening to their song in the living years - I wrote my father a very long letter saying how I felt about him and all that had happened over the years - mum dying, stepmother - etc. I needed to know that before he died it had all been said - no regrets good or bad from me. So glad I did.
At May 15, 2007 12:59 PM ,
The Country Craft Angel said...
Poor little Heiress. I am sure she is getting lots of love and hugs from everyone-what a worry for you all, little precious.
I know EXACTLY what you mean about telling someone what you think about them. Quite strange, I have lots of issues, as you know and I have chosen to blog about my nan today. There is much to say about her and her influences, not always good. But I owe her everything.
So I do know exactly what you mean.
warm wishes and big hug from me Mousie
xx
At May 15, 2007 1:09 PM ,
toady said...
You must have been very worried, such a little mite to have a temperature like that. Tell her all her purple aunties and thinking of her.
At May 15, 2007 1:11 PM ,
MaidofKent said...
Oh Mousie, a scary thing is a sick grandchild. ( Littlest was born 29/1, so similar age, I imagine, to the Heiress, judging by the 15 months you mentioned. ) Her older sister had meningitis, and we are well aware of how very much blessed and fortunate we are that there are no ill effects now. Still, I panic over even the teething now! Their mum had measles too - and again nothing to show for it. I won't tell you not to worry, I know you will, but I pray her as good a recovery as my daughter, and her eldest both had, and very quickly too.
xx
At May 15, 2007 1:13 PM ,
Blossomcottage said...
The poem is lovely and I am so sorry the heiress has been poorly, I hate it when anyone is feeling under the weather, but precious children and such a worry. My Granny told us to make sure we went to bed knowing we had not missed doing something we could have done with just a little more effort.
I do my best to do just that, I was with Lesley just a few hours before she passed away and I know she knew I was there.
Blossom
At May 15, 2007 1:13 PM ,
UN PEU LOUFOQUE said...
God it is so frightening. I fought tooth and nail to avoid the boys having the dreaded 3 in 1 jab aand managed to avoid it until we got to France by which time their bodies were big enough to limit the risk. I know it would have been terrible if your little hieress had had the full blown measles but it feels far worse doesn't it when you know they are ill becasue of something that someone has done to them and by law too. Sorry that did not make a lot of sense I fel so sorry for the poor little thing!
At May 15, 2007 1:17 PM ,
annakarenin said...
She will be a very lucky girl having a Grandma like you.
At May 15, 2007 1:23 PM ,
Suffolkmum said...
So sorry to hear that, I can imagine how worried you must be. Poor little heiress, I hope she's back toher old self really soon. Lovely poem and so true. There's no escaping, you know; I still think the Suffolk contingent should meet up, maybe on a lovely summer's day at the coast.
At May 15, 2007 1:31 PM ,
ChrisH said...
Best wishes to you all.
At May 15, 2007 1:33 PM ,
Cait O'Connor said...
Oh thank you for sharing the poem, a new one on me.
I'm so glad your granddaughter is on the mend, must have been so worying for you.
Very best wishes,
Caitx
At May 15, 2007 1:55 PM ,
Frances said...
I am thinking of a future day, when the Heiress will be showing her own daughter all that you have written about her, and how much love abounded!
xo
At May 15, 2007 1:59 PM ,
Grouse said...
I second ExJ's advice.
Lovely poem- a grand old lady once told me 'It's not the things we do in life that we regret later, but the things we didnt do!'
At May 15, 2007 2:08 PM ,
sally's chateau said...
Mousie, you quite bought a lump to my throat, love to you all x
At May 15, 2007 3:38 PM ,
Pondside said...
Poor Heiress and poor Grandmother! The worry is awful when the little ones are ill. I hope that she is even better today and eating and drinking more. How wonderful that your son and his wife have your support so close by.
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